I used to live in a negative loop playing in my head all of the time. I didn’t realize that focusing on the negative just caused me to keep seeing the negative. 

Once I learned how to reframe those potentially negative situations into positive ones, it literally helped me turn my entire outlook on life around. 

Watch the full video for all the details or get the TLDR version below.

TLDR:

The top 3 questions I’ve learned to ask myself and also ask my clients to ask themselves are:

1. Ask, “HOW is this FOR me, not WHY is this happening TO me?”
   Instead of falling into a victim mindset, consider reframing challenges as opportunities for growth. Ask yourself, “How is this situation serving me?” This shift in perspective empowers you to find meaning and lessons in adversity. This can be as simple as reframing being stuck in traffic from, “I’m going to be late!” to “Maybe I’m being protected from getting in an accident.”
2. Ask, “What do I really need right now?”
   Amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to lose sight of our true needs. If you are anything like me, you find yourself staring into the fridge or pantry looking for food at times of frustration. Or, maybe you have a different vice to help with this. Take a moment to pause and ask yourself, “What do I truly need in this moment?” By taking time to figure out what you really need, you might just realize you need water, a break, some sunshine, or a quick walk to help you through that situation. This self-awareness enables you to make decisions that align with your values and lead to greater fulfillment.
3. Ask, “What happened? What did I want to have happen? What’s next?”
   When we handle a situation poorly, it’s a good opportunity to reflect on it and ask yourself these questions. Ask what happened without any judgment. It’s just a fact. Consider what you would have liked to have happen. How would you have really liked to have handled the situation? Then, think about how your best self will handle the same or similar situation in the future. It’s a little pre-gaming that will help you down the road. This process of self-reflection allows you to learn from your experiences and make informed choices moving forward.

I’d love to know – what ways have you found helpful in changing your perspective?